How to handle being blamed at work for something you didn’t do

Alger Makiputin
4 min readSep 21, 2022

Everyone makes mistakes. In fact, most, if not all of your mistakes, can be excellent learning opportunities. However, some people delight in blaming their flaws on others. This is very common in the workplace and also in the tech world. If you are a developer and are being blamed for a team member’s coding mistake or bug, that is a lot of pressure and will put you on the spot. The question is, would you take the other team members’ misdeeds for everyone’s good? Or should you stand up for yourself to protect your credibility and set the record straight for your own career? or understand that we are all humans that make mistakes and try to propose a solution? In this article, I will discuss how you should go about it to protect yourself from the blame game, and maintain healthy relationships with your team member without dragging someone’s name in the mud.

Stay neutral and acknowledge fault, even if it isn’t yours

It feels terrible being subject to blame. You’re not necessarily wrong — it is possible to make mistakes despite your best efforts and intentions. But it’s also important to remember that other people are human too, and they sometimes make mistakes as well. Acknowledging fault is key here: acknowledge both what happened (the problem), as well as where the mistake came from (if it is on your part or in the other person).

If someone else made a mistake on their end or if there was something about how things were handled that could have been better, then say so! This allows for everyone involved in discussions about problems at work or home lives (or both) to feel heard and respected throughout any given situation.

Replace the blame game with problem-solving

When you’re at work, it’s easy to get caught up in the blame game. But there are several ways to avoid this trap and focus on problem-solving instead.

  • Start with a problem-solving mindset: Instead of focusing on who is responsible for what went wrong, think about how you can fix things so that they can go right again. Use collaborative approaches when possible (for example: “Let’s try this” or “What do we need?”).
  • Focus on the present: Don’t spend too much time dwelling on past mistakes or problems — it may lead to frustration and stress! Instead, use techniques such as mindfulness meditation or body relaxation exercises; both help keep your mind clear while also helping relieve tension in muscles throughout your body.
  • Ask questions: Sometimes asking questions will help clarify things better than just assuming something happened without knowing exactly what did happen. Use various techniques such as brainstorming sessions where everyone shares ideas until one seems like an obvious solution (or until someone comes up with one that doesn’t work).

Blaming others doesn’t help solve problems

Blaming others is not a solution. It only creates more problems, and stress and makes you feel like an unproductive person at work. There are many other ways that you can resolve issues without blaming others for what happened or how things went wrong in your business or personal life.

When someone else does something wrong, it’s easy to think that the blame should be placed solely on them but this isn’t always true; there may be other factors involved that don’t directly impact the problem (it can be the work you’ve done weeks ago, or other team members recent code changes). If you cannot find any logical reason why someone did something wrong then it would be best not to point fingers at them and instead focus on finding solutions together so everyone can benefit from what happened rather than getting aggressive with each other over whose fault it was.

Practice self-care

You’re going to have to go through some self-care to cope with being blamed for something you didn’t do if your boss is a jerk. You can try taking a break from work and enjoy some time alone, or other available options, this must be nothing too distracting — you want this time just for yourself! You’ll be able to relax better knowing that nobody else can bother you while doing so either way! This will enable you to come back to work at your full potential.

Conclusion

Remember, you can’t control other people’s actions or words. But you can control your response to them. Learn how to take care of yourself — and be kind when someone else is at fault!

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Alger Makiputin

Software developer, working across mobile, web, and custom software development. Creator of POSLite www.poslitesoftware.com